Introduction Part Two
In my lifetime I have written two self-published
books. The first one was way back in the
early 1980’s. “Shedding the Cocoon of
Fretting, Fussing, Stewing and Steering.”
My logo is a butterfly and a friend back then suggested that I was
helping people shed their cocoons. . .of emotional distress, emotional abuse,
marriage issues, communication deficits, you name it. I also helped them to stop fretting about
everything, fussing over everything, and trying to
control everything by steering at all times.
(Or, controlling everything and everyone)
The second book I wrote was a few years back. I
wanted everyone to understand that unforgiveness is a real culprit to breaking
apart your emotional walls and rushing in bitterness, anger, and
separation. That separation comes not
only in your daily relationships but with your Holy Father God. “Fix Your Future So It Does NOT Reflect your
Past!”
Embracing Emotional Forgiveness. You see, even though God says to forgive, and
diligent Christians do like to say, “Well, I did forgive him, after all, God’s
Word says to forgive.” Okay, so then why do you clinch your teeth whenever you
see that person, or roll your eyes? Do
you think for one-minute God can’t see you do that? We can forgive on a clinical side, from our
head. But have you emotionally forgiven
that person? I have used that in my
Counseling practice for 25 years. It is
a counseling tool that has saved many relationships that were going down a
rabbit hole and never coming back out.
There are many life situations that take us down a
rabbit hole and because I have had to learn the hard way many times, my main
objective here is to equip you with some possible ideas, and options that will
help you practice, practice, practice learning how to get unstuck and get your
joy back. . .thus the title!
DANCING AT THE CROSSROADS! WHAT IN THE WORLD DOES
THAT LOOK LIKE?
INTRODUCTION PART # 3
What that looks like for me, is equipping
you to process those life surprises much quicker. I want you to understand/analyze just what is going on and how did you get drawn
down into that rabbit hole.
How to check all that out
with God, and then ask Him for truth about what is going on here. To trust Him by being driven to pray harder, to
leave it at the cross, to let it go, and as the Bible says; wait expectantly
for His timing. It is hard, I admit, but
I can attest to learning through His word that He does get (us) you through
this “life situation you are going through”.
Turning around one day and saying, Wow.
He showed up. What a Praise, what
a blessing. Psalm 25: 4,5, and 6
Now to be clear, you can
have people close to you who make a choice that impacts your life for the
positive. Dancing at the crossroads can
be exciting and pleasant. Perhaps they
bring you flowers, cards, kidnap you and put you on a helicopter ride, all
kinds of neat bouquets from God. The
Crossroads I am talking about is when we experience those choices in life that
throw (us)you under the bus, come out of nowhere, things you didn’t see
coming. They keep you up at night, you
can’t eat, you eat too much, you put the car keys in the refrigerator and the
milk out on the counter. You can’t think
straight or react with maturity. It is
blank up there in that head of yours.
Here are some examples:
* Your teenage daughter/granddaughter gets
pregnant
* Your son/grandson declares he is gay or
wants to be a girl
* You are suddenly a widow or a 2 to 10 year
care giver
* Your child dies of an overdose
* Your parents die in a car accident together
* Your blended family isn’t so blended
* Your dream of opening a business – fails
* Your husband loses his important job
* Your wife/husband tells you she/he doesn’t
want to be married anymore.
* Your son-in-law takes your daughter to court for custody.
* Your child is raped and killed
* Your friend betrays you and gossips about you
* Your husband wants a divorce and gender change
* Your live in – for 20 years, leaves and
marries his girlfriend/or boyfriend. of 2 months.
* You are diagnosed with breast cancer
* Your husband has stage 4 colon cancer
Do I
need to go on, probably, there are all kinds of lists that you could write for
me, I haven’t even gotten started here
I have been through all
kinds of things I didn’t even list.
Naturally, in 38 years of counseling, I have been through another couple
pages of situations that my clients were experiencing. The worst one, was a gentleman who was
married to a woman that he felt was losing her mind. He had just found out she had not told him
everything about her past. That she had
actually been married to seven other men.
One of which was a husband who was homosexual and
his significant secret partner came looking to kill her.
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